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The institution of marriage is sacred to their Kith and Ibusans parents Anioma and Ibusans marriage celebrated in high esteem. Divorce is unthinkable and not as a taboo in the minds people. To mention or suggestion is followed with fierce resentment, is very different from what we hear or read in the Western press, where divorce is done correctly with the highest appetite. In fact, Aniomas believe that divorce is a wind that blows no good will.

This results in the traditional rite of "Ihalidi" in which a widow has to accept the traditional relations of her brother, who eventually may become her husband If both give their consent.

In this paper, I will try everything possible to give an idea of what you should expect to marry a lady Ibusa or how the wedding will be held. Ibusa is a quiet, small Delta State , Nigeria , with nice people and nice. City Name History clearly indicates that once married, ladies Ibusa well at home and are very laborious.

This is not the tradition but Ibusa Lady on the loan proposal for marriage is expected to formally present their love for their parents and sometimes their parents too close relationships. Subsequently set a date for "Iku-Aka" (Introduction). "Iku-Aka" specifically provide a platform for knowledge both Families exchange therefore tend to become familiar with them or just plant the idea that marriage can take place soon.

After "Iku-Aka" the expectation of marriage are very high, but what happens is that a list that contains the necessary requirements so that a sum amounting to the "Ego" Isi "(price of the bride) and the dowry is given to the husband. However, there is no fixed sum as bride price Ibusa people not only sell their daughters, but I want her welfare, that is a great concern to them.

The husband called, after having consulted the parents of his bride-to-be arrives with a date "Ibu" Ego "(traditional marriage) must take place. The Ibusa traditional marriage is usually not an Outlook door and arranged so that the families of the couple sit together, but sitting face to face each the other for families and friends of the groom sit as individuals, families and friends of the bride sit together as one. Only on rare occasions, they sat together. May decided Bride traditional dress and decorate their hair with red beads, too.

Traditional marriage begins with an opening prayer used mean by "Diokpa" (head of the family of the bride's family) thereafter, the groom's family is greeted with what is called "recognition of nut cola drinks. "This can be seen sharing drinks with the groom's family. Kolanut broken by the two families together. The spokesman of the bridegroom, and then the traditional family, the bride gives the explanation of the purpose of the visit in May when it starts:

"Well, you have discovered that one of the flowers had disappeared and still not found "

The "Diokpa" (head of the groom's family) in May to respond as follows:

"We're still open, because while we learned that our flower missing has been taken by you, many of our flowers are missing. Mention the name in particular, its … "

After the name of the bride, the groom's family supplies the groom's family with drinks that follow the acceptance speech the purpose of the visit of the Diokpa. Next is "Izu-Ashia" (traditional marketing) About 3 men each of the two families are well are allowed to go to traditional marketing.

Here, the dowry is discussed and accepted. These are the 3 men who represent the groom's family with money back The bride, given the "Diokpa. The bride price in the form of money is kept in a covered dish. The bride and groom are so united as husband and wife over the head of the family the groom.

It starts with the head of her husband's family to ask the bride if they should drink the drink to stay at the table where the bride says yes. The "Diokpa" After reminding the woman that in no case be welcomed him back into his parents' house after a fight with her husband and divorce should never be contemplated by the he or the family because both families will never be able to support them. The "Diokpa" then pours some "Nmanya-Nkwu" (palm wine) in a cup and gives women and give drink to her husband who had been kneeling. This is the symbol of her submission to her husband in the coming years as a wife.

The couple maintains, however, their guests with dance moves and exciting is appreciated in return for their guests to join them in this dance. "Iha-A" (In the rituals of departure of the Act) becomes the last item on the agenda event that ends a marriage with a lady Ibusa

About the Author:

Emeka Esogbue hails from Ibusa, Delta State , Nigeria . He is a History and International Relations graduate with lots of tremendous works.

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